enjoloras:

samiholloway:

yournewapartment:

Singlehandedly my favorite life hack compilation, below I’ve included my favorites. Read the whole compilation: http://imgur.com/gallery/5991n

1. Put a bunch of shit in jars

You know when you buy rice, pasta, or grains, they come in perfectly good plastic packaging? Well throw them out, pour the contents into big jars, and put them on display. Voila! Oppan cottage-style.

2. Put a hardcover book on your piece of shit bedside table with a bookmark in it.

You were never going to read Crime and Punishment, but you may as well make it look like you did. If you really want to seal the deal, put a pair of glasses that you haven’t worn since high school on top. They’re back in style now, anyway.

3. Get the biggest bowl in your house and fill it with some fucking lemons.

“Better get this out of the way,” you can say just before you sit down for dinner to make sure everyone has seen it, and then never mention it again. Everyone will assume you have jars of homemade lemon curd in your pantry. But I know the truth.

I like this one:

15. Overwhelm your guests by offering them many types of tea.

“Tea? Sure! We’ve just got green, peppermint, chamomile, lady grey, irish breakfast, elderberry, lemon and mandarin, licorice, jasmine, rooibos, cinnamon, or lemongrass.” Just make up the first 10 and end up with the three you actually have in your cupboard; they’ll have forgotten the others by then.

@softgrantaire we do some of these. Oh god.

lishadra:

cultural-hoxhaist:

goodie-badwife:

audible-smiles:

lipatti:

am i the only person not affected by generalized positivity… like post it notes in bathrooms that say ‘you’re beautiful’ or posts that are like ‘smile! you are a beautiful sunshine flower!’ i’m just like … okay…

I just heard a psychologist (Guy Winch) say that the people that positive affirmations help most are actually the people who have high or at least normal self-esteem. They really do cheer those people up!

But for the rest of us they run so counter to our general worldview (we’re fundamentally bad and deserve nothing) that our brain rejects them immediately as lies and uses that moment to remind us of how terrible and abnormal we actually are.

What usually works for people with low self-esteem is stuff like writing out a list of very specific things we know we’re good at, and revisiting it every day to write a paragraph elaborating on one of those things (i.e. “I’m a compassionate person and here are five examples”) to try to set our brain on a different track long term.

That makes so much sense.

the psychology behind the “ok that sounds fake but ok” meme 

Holy crap

theescortbunny:

free-speech4sexworkers:

MANGA & COMICS

• Rent Girl by: Michelle Tea
• Paying for It: a Comic Strip Memoir About Being by: Chester Brown
• Sex Criminals by: Matt Fraction
• PINK by: Kyoko Okazaki
• Delivery Cinderella by: NON

MAGAZINES & ZINES

• strip-magazine
• $pread

KINDLE HOW TO’s

• Ho Tactics: How to MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring
• A Gold Digger’s Guide: How to get what you want without giving it up
• Blueprint for an Escort Service
• Blueprint for an Escort Service 2: Beyond the Original Blueprint
• The Courtesan Handbook
• The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 1: The Foundation
• The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 2: Advertising and Marketing
• How to Start an Escort Business I
• How to Start an Escort Business II
• How to Start an Escort Business III
• Digital Sex Work: How Your Webcam, Cell Phone & Pedicure Can Make You Rich
• Cam Girl 2.0: Make Boss Money at Home While Keeping Your Panties On
• Start Earning Over $40 an Hour as a Webcam Model Now!
• How To Succeed As A Webcam Model
• Talking Dirty: Getting into the Phone Sex Industry and Staying There
• Greedy: A Guide to Financial Domination
• The Mistress Manual: A Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance
• The Sugar Daddy Formula: A Sugar Baby’s Ultimate Guide to Finding a Wealthy Sugar Daddy
• Sugar Daddy 101: What You Need to Know if You Want to be a Sugar Baby
• Make Money Stripping: how to make money as an exotic dancer tonight!
• Stripping: Your Guide for Making Money in a Tough Economy
• The Nerdy Girl’s Guide to Stripping: A 10-Step Guide for Stripping Your Way to Success
• The Pole Position: Is Stripping for You? And How to Stay Healthy Doing It
• Zen And The Art of Stripping: A Very Naughty Tale
• Secrets of The Lazy Stripper: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 1
• How to Make More Money in the Gentlemen’s Club: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 2
• The Successful Stripper: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 3
• Lap Dance: The Ultimate Guide to Being the Best Exotic Dancer: The Ultimate Exotic Dancer Package Book 4

FICTION

• After Dark by: Haruki Murakami and Jay Rubin
• Around the World in 80 Men by: Brandi Ratliff
• Bitter Sweet: A Controversial Crime Thriller by: Mason N. Forbes
• Black Girl in Paris by: Shay Youngblood
• Changing His Game by: Justine Elvira
• Dance Dance Dance by: Haruki Murakami
• Escorted by: Claire Kent
• Evocronik 1.0 by Jc Weatherby
• Gutterboys by: Alvin Orloff
• Heaven by: Kimberly Cain
• I Am Not Myself These Days by: Josh Kilmer-Purcell
• In Lucia’s Eyes by: Arthur Japi
• In the Company of the Courtesan by: Sarah Dunant
• Kushiel’s Dart by: Jacqueline Carey
• Mistress of My Fate by Hallie Rubenhold
• Private Dancer by Stephen Leather
• Safe Houses by: Lynne Alexander
• Six Moon Dance by: Sheri S. Tepper
• Slammerkin by: Emma Donoghue
• Southern Discomfort by: Rita Mae Brown
• The Balcony by: Jean Genet
• The Butterfly Trap by: Dennis Jon
• The Crimson Petal and the White by: Michael Faber
• The Dress Lodger by: Sheri Holman
• The Gargoyle by: Andrew Davidson
• The Handmaid’s Tale by: Margaret Atwood
• The Past Never Ends by: Jackson Burnett
• The Submission Gift by: Solace Ames x review
• Tipping the Velvet by: Sarah Waters

FANFICTION

• Underland by: jellyheart84
• Creamsickle by: Rhiannon Argo
• Harry Potter Porn Star by: Reverie Wilde
• Innocent Games by: Wynja
• Dating Backwards by: RemainNameless
• Escort Services by: Tempest-2455
• In Which Tess Hires Teen Prostitutes by: Incidental Vegan Cannibal
• Personal by: Incidental Vegan Cannibal

BIOGRAPHIES

• Unrepentant Whore: the Collected Works of Scarlot Harlot by: Scarlot Harlot
• Cop to Call Girl: Why I Left the LAPD to Make an Honest Living as a Beverly Hills Prostitute by: Norma Jean Almodovar
• Working: my Life as a Prostitute by:  Dolores French
• Woman at Point Zero by: Nawal El Saadawi
• Strip City by: Lily Burana
• Spent by: Antonia Crane
• In My Skin; a Memoir of Addiction by: Kate Holden
• The Story About Me: a Hijra Life Story by: A. Revathi
• Bare: the Naked Truth About Stripping by: Elisabeth Eaves
• a Piece of  Cake by: Cupcake Brown
• Ordeal by: Linda Lovelace
• Dominatrix on Trail: Bedford vs Canada by: Terri-Jean Bedford
• Conertina: the Life and Loves of a Dominatrix by: Susan Winemaker
• The Mayflower Madam: the Secret Life of Sydeny Biddle Barrows by: Sydney Biddle Barrows
• Madam Inside a Nevada Brothel by: Lora Shaner
• How to Make Love Like a Porn Star by: Jenna Jameson
• Inside Seka: The Platinum Princess of Porn by: Seka
• The Best Kept Boy in the World by: Arthur Vanderbilt
• Belle du Jour by: Belle du Jour
• Insatiable; Porn a Love Story by: Asa Akira
• Rent Girl by: Michelle Tea
• The Little Black Book of Griselidis Real: Days and Nights of an Anarchist Whoreby: Jean-Luc Hennig
• Naked in The Promised Land by: Lillian Faderman
• The Last of the Live Nude Girls by: Sheila McClear
• Indecent: How I Make it and Fake it as a Girl for Hire by: Sarah Katherine Lewis
• Hos, Hookers, Call Girls and Rent Boys: Professionals Writing on Life, Love, Money and Sex
  
• Johns, Marks, Trick and Chickenhawks: Professionals and Their Clients Writing About Each Other

SOCIOLOGY

• $pread: The Best of the Magazine that Illuminated the Sex Industry and Started a Media Revolution by: Rachel Aimee
• Brothel: Mustang Ranch and Its Women by: Alexa Albert
• Encyclopedia of Prostitution and Sex Work by: Melissa Hope Ditmore
• Flesh for Fantasy: Producing and Consuming Exotic Dance by: Merri Lisa Jhonson and Danielle Egan
• Global Sex Workers: Rights, Resistance, and Redefinition by: Kamala Kempadoo and Jo Doezema
• Global Woman: Nannies, Maids, and Sex Workers in the New Economy by: Barbara Ehrenreich
• G-Strings and Sympathy: Strip Club Regulars and Male Desire by: Frank Katherine
• Honey, Honey, Miss Thang: Being Black, Gay, and on the Streets by: Leon Pettiway
• Legalizing Prostitution: From Illicit Vice to Lawful Business by: Ronald Weitzer
• AIDS, Drugs and Prostitution by: Martin A. Plant
• Live Sex Acts: Women Performing Erotic Labor by: Wendy Chapkis
• Love For Sale: A World History of Prostitution by: Nils Johan Ringdal
• Making Work, Making Trouble: The Social Regulation of Sexual Labour by: Deborah Brock
• Men Who Sell Sex: International Perspectives on Male Prostitution and AIDS by: Peter Aggleton
• Naked on the Internet: Hookups, Downloads, and Cashing in on Internet Sexploration by: Audacia Ray
• Negotiating Sex Work: Unintended Consequences of Policy and Activism by: Carisa R. Showden
• Playing the Whore: The Work of Sex Work by: Melissa Gira Grant
• Policing Pleasure: Sex Work, Policy, and the State in Global Perspective by: Susan Dewey
• Prostitution and Feminism: Towards a Politics of Feeling by: Maggie O’Neill
• Prostitution and Sex Work by: Melissa Hope Ditmore
• Selling Sex: A Hidden History of Prostitution by: Raelene Frances
• Selling Sex: Experience, Advocacy, and Research on Sex Work in Canada
• Sex at the Margins: Migration, Labour Markets and the Rescue Industry by: Laura Maria Agustin
• Sex For Sale: Prostitution, Pornography, and the Sex Industry by: Ronald Weitzer
• Sex Slaves and Discourse Masters: The Construction of Trafficking by: Jo Doezema
• Sex Work and Sex Workers
• Sex Work Matters: Exploring Money, Power and Intimacy in the Sex Industry by: Melissa Hope Dittmore
• Sex Work On The Streets by: Neil McKeganey and Marina Barnard
• Sex Work Politics: From Protest to Service Provision by: Samantha Majic
• Sex Work: Rethinking the Job, Respecting the Workers by: Colette Parent, Chris Bruckert and Patrice Corriveau
• Sex Work: Writings By Women In The Sex Industry by: Frederique Delacoste
• Sex Workers Unite: A History of the Movement from Stonewall to SlutWalk by: Malinda Chateauvert
• Strip Club: Gender, Power, and Sex Work by: Kim Price Glynn and Charles Andrain
• Taking the crime out of sex work: New Zealand sex workers’ fight for decriminalisation
• Temporarily Yours: Intimacy, Authenticity, and the Commerce of Sex by: Elizabeth Bernstein
• The Feminist Porn Book: The Politics of Producing Pleasure
• The Prostitution Prism by: Gail Pheterson
• The State of Sex: Tourism, Sex and Sin in the New American Heartland by: Barbara G. Bents, Crystal A. Jackson and Kathryn Hausbeck
• The Story of Jane Doe: a Book About Rape by: Jane Doe
• Times Square Red, Times Square Blue by: Samuel R. Delany
• Trafficking and Prostitution Reconsidered: New Perspectives on Migration, Sex Work, and Human Rights
• Vindication Rights Of Whores by: Gail Pheterson
• Whores and Other Feminists by: Jill Nagel
• Working Sex: Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry

TELEVISION SHOWS

• Masters of Sex
• Deadwood
• American Horror Story: Freak Show x review
• Firefly
• The Playboy Club
• The Client List
• Secret Diary of a Callgirl
• Satisfaction
• Hung
• Dollhouse
• Underbelly The Golden Mile x summary x watch season one

DOCUMENTARIES

• Daddies Date Babies
• 9 to 5 days in porn
• American Courtesans
• Aroused
• Bettie Page Reveals All
• Client 9
• Live Nude Girls Unite!
• Hookers at the Point
• Mutantes: Punk Porn Feminism
• Paris is Burning
• Screaming Queens
• Whore’s Glory
• Buying Sex
• Stripped
• Bangladesh: Brothel Justice
• Meet the Fokkens
• The Great Happiness Space
• Scarlet Road

MOVIES

• Working Girls
• Leaving Las Vegas
• My Akward Sexual Adventure
• Chloe
• Milk Money
• Welcome to the Rileys
• Gypsy
• Showgirls
• Mighty Aphrodite
• Emotional Truth
• Remedy
• Magic Mike
• Lovelace
• Lost Highway
• Klute
• Inland Empire
• The Frozen Ground
• Afternoon Delight
• Elles
• Pretty Woman
• Closer
• The Best Little Whore House in Texas
• Memoirs of a Geisha
• Priceless
• Baise Moi
• Blaze
• The Player’s Club
• Nathalie
• Lap Dance
• Breakfast at Tiffany’s
• Student Services
• The Girlfriend Experience
• From the Head
• The Center of the World
• This Girl’s Life
• The Pornographer
• Flashdance
• The Babysitters
• Sweet Charity
• Sleeping Beauty
• Black Girl in Paris
• Stripteaseh
• Moulin Rouge!
• Les Miserables non-musical and musical
• Zombie Strippers
• For a Good Time Call
• Byzantium
• Call Me: the Rise and Fall Heidi Faleiss
• Dancing at the Blue Iguana
• The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things
• Mysterious Skin
• The Machinist
• The Wrestler
• Sin City
• Sucker Punch
• Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me
• House of Pleasures
• I Know Who Killed Me

Someone seriously needs to appreciate the effort, the days that it took for me to find and organize all this information into one place, don’t be shy show me the love.

I AM STILL LOOKING FOR FANFICTION WITH A SEX WORKER AS THE MAIN CHARACTER AS WELL AS ZINES! IF YOU HAVE KNOW OF EITHER PLEASE GIVE ME THE LINK.

WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS BEAUTIFUL 

sugarbabystyle:

I remember reviewing two popular books that could be easily be applied to an aspiring sugar baby (or any sex worker for that matter). I did say that I was going to review the many others in my repertoire BUT ain’t nobody got time for dat. So I will just list the books. This include books on power, manipulating men, sex, etc. ((In no particular order))

**Disclaimer: This is MY personal list of books that I own whether in book, kindle or audio form. This list includes sexually related books. No, I’m not saying as a (SB/Stripper/Escort/etc.) that you need to have sex. In no way am I insinuating that in this list. Just listing books that worked for ME in my personal life.** 

1. Women Have All The Power… Too Bad They Don’t Know It: Secrets Every Man’s Daughter Should Know by Michael J. Lockwood

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2. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey

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3. The Power of the Pussy: How to Get What You Want From Men Love, Respect, Commitment and More…What Do You Want? by Kara King

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4. A Gold Digger’s Guide (How to get what you want without giving it up) by Baje Fletcher

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5. Sugar Daddy 101: What You Need to Know if You Want to be a Sugar Baby by Leidra Lawson

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6. The Art Of Gold Digging by Tariq King Flex Nasheed

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7. Seeking Arrangement: The Definitive Guide to Sugar Daddy and Mutually Beneficial Relationships by Brandon Wade

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8. 6 Simple Tricks To CRACK THE MAN CODE And Get Any Guy To Open His Heart by Michael Fiore

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9. How to Snare a Millionaire NOW: A sequel to the Ultimate Guide on Marrying for Both Love and Money by Lisa Johnson Mandell

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10. Get Anyone to Do Anything by David J. Lieberman Ph.D.

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11. The Geisha Secret: Ancient Dating Rituals Proven to Win a Modern Man’s Heart by Hanako

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12. The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want by Karrine Steffans

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13. The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 1: The Foundation by Amanda Brooks

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14. The Internet Escort’s Handbook Book 2: Advertising and Marketing by Amanda Brooks

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15. The Attraction Factor - 4 Simple Yet Powerful Principles That Will Melt Any Man’s Heart by Bob Grant

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16. Marry a Millionaire - The Best Places To Find Rich Men by Coach Juliet

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17. How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes

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18. How To Develop Self-Confidence and Influence Peoplle by Pulic Speaking by Dale Carnegie

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19. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

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20. Going Down: The Instinct Guide to Oral Sex by Ben R. Rogers ((Yes, it’s written from the perspective of a gay male but VERY useful nonetheless.))

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21. Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex by Marcy Michaels

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22. The Power of Eye Contact by Michael Ellsberg

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23. The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

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24. The Definitive Book of Body Language by Barbara Pease

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25. The Satanic Witch by Anton Szandor LaVey ((Don’t be fooled/scared by the title of the book. A very good read for women that would like to use their inherited manipulation skills))

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26. What Every BODY is Saying by Joe Navarro

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27. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini

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28. The Gold Digger’s Guide: How To Marry The Man And The Money by Ivana Rich

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29. The Fortune Hunters: Dazzling Women and the Men They Married by Charlotte Hays

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30. How to Marry Money by Kevin Doyle

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31. How to Marry Super Rich by Sheilah Graham

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32. The Guide to Becoming the Sensuous Black Woman (And Drive Your Man Wild In and Out of Bed!) by Miss T.

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33. How to Look Expensive: A Beauty Editor’s Secrets to Getting Gorgeous without Breaking the Bank by Andrea Pomerantz Lustig

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34. How to Marry the Rich by Ginie Polo Sayles

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35. Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money—That the Poor and the Middle Class Do Not! by Robert T. Kiyosaki

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36. From Ramen to Riches: Building Wealth in Your 20s: Or Spending, Saving, Investing and Managing Your Money to Get Rich Slowly, but Surely by James Wood

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37. Wealthy Men for Money or Love 21.2 Century Guide for VIP Escorts and Single Women by Jessica Diamond

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38. The Princess Plan: Shrink your waist. Expand your beauty by Dr. Jennifer Hanes

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39. How To Get a Rich Man by Donna Spangler

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40. Smart Girls Marry Money: How Women Have Been Getting Duped into the Romantic Dream-and How They’re Paying For It by Daniela Drake

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& Many More.. Part 2 Coming Soon

melaninsugarbarbie:

Soooo I have sooooo many girls in my inbox asking me about sugaring that I think I might create a members only type of resource for you guys. Repost if you would like in!

olibbia:

does any1 else go thru periods where u don;t want 2 talk anybody not bc ur distressed/angry or u dislike the people ur talking to but bc the pressure of having convos gets overwhelmin sometimes and u jus want 2 step away 4 awhile like i feel like an asshole for going ghost a lot but it;s therapeutic 4 me the pressure of being present and vocal all the time is tew much